“Stuckosity” isn’t a real word. It can’t even be found at Urban Dictionary. Well, at least not yet.
But certainly most of us are familiar with the quality of being stuck. Perhaps you’re feeling it right now.
We get stuck telling the same old stories about ourselves that are familiar, but serve no useful purpose.
We get stuck trying to solve problems with the same level of thinking that got us into trouble in the first place.
We get stuck defending the status quo, even when we know it’s not working.
We get stuck in self-righteousness, which almost never changes the other person’s mind or behavior, but frustrates us to no end.
We get stuck fighting reality, re-litigating the past, trying vainly to predict the future.
We get stuck striving for perfection, when perfect is both impossible and, ultimately, only a recipe for suffering.
We get stuck waiting for precisely the right time and to be fully ready, failing to see that those exact conditions will never ever come.
We get stuck in relationships because we fail to speak our truth and ask for what we want and need.
We get stuck unleashing our full potential because we wonder how other folks will judge us if we were to go out on a limb.
And on and on and on.
The key to getting unstuck is to first see it for what it is. And most of the time our stuckness is merely our habitual reaction to an irrational fear; to a fundamental misunderstanding of risk.
Once we become aware that staying in our fear–and being unwilling to let go of our story, our need for control and our desire to be right–is actually the most risky thing we can do, the door is cracked open to change.
Once we we accept that our behavior is simply habit, the debilitating result of a lifetime of bad conditioning, we can work to establish new, more healthy and useful ones.
Once we are committed to take action, we are finally free. Free to start before we are ready. Free to embrace failure as a natural outcome of growth. Free to be okay with our imperfection.
And that’s good thinking Robin.
This post also appeared on my business blog at http://www.stevenpdennis.com