Unless we live in certain parts of the world we get to pick most of our battles.
So it’s probably a good idea to decide what’s worth fighting for?
On my best days, I realize my list is pretty short:
- Confronting my pain, fear and shame
- Acceptance of reality
- Living in the present moment.
Of course, despite knowing this, I often convince myself that other things are important. I strap on my emotional armor and fight the useless fight.
The battles with our egos are ultimately both the most seductive and most destructive. We fight to be right, to win, to avoid our failings, to medicate our feelings, to control uncontrollable outcomes, to protect us from getting hurt. And to what end?
Our desire can betray us. Merely knowing our vulnerabilities is not enough.
We need to understand there is a profound difference between a reaction and a choice.
And if we decide that something–or someone–is truly worth fighting for, we go for it. We make mistakes, we embarrass ourselves (full disclosure: as I’ve already done this morning) and sometimes we’re going fall flat on our face.
But if we’re truly fulfilling our heart’s desire, then we pick ourselves up, recalibrate and just keep doing the work–smiling at our fears and our imperfect humanity.